Marriage - just like buying a phone!!

So the thing with arranged marriages is, its complicated...

You can have an arranged marriage where you have people putting up descriptions of the kind of wife/husband they would like. And then you have love marriages where a guy and girl (mostly) fall in love and get married - with or without family consent.

The fact is its always a gamble. Just like it is when you buy a new phone - you may go and hunt through a million handsets and pick out the 'best' one and still end up making trips to the service center. Or you may end up falling in love with your friends phone and taking the same phone from them and still end up visiting the service center just as often.

The thing about marriage is that it has become just a namesake. People get married not because they want to, but because society wants them to. Its the done thing - school, college, post graduation, job marriage, kids... Its always the same for everyone (almost).

People will always ask - do u want an arranged marriage or a love marriage? During my stay in London, my friends asked me if it was true - did people in India actually get married to whoever their parents chose - when I said yes, the look on their faces was unbelievable.

Fact is, no religion or culture traditionally imbibes arranged marriages - that's just a concept developed for our convenience. If you can't find someone yourself, ask your parents to help - just like you would have asked your friends.

Sadly, today the whole concept of an arranged marriage has become out of proportion. Its like you are literally going to buy a mobile phone. As when u buy mobile phones, you would first write down some features that the phone must have - 5" screen, 1 GB RAM, expandable memory, etc.; its the same with arranged marriage proposals. You can note down whether you want a doctor or a teacher or a fashion designer and the of course you can specify how tall he/she should be, colour (fair, tanned, etc), weight, etc. You can also choose brands... Oops i mean regions and religions... Its strange how choosing a life partner is not very different from choosing a phone these days!!