Why the fuss about adopting?!

While watching a TV serial - one of the saas bahu soaps (with my aunt of course) - i suddenly realised how our soaps tend to make a mountain out of a molehill!!

The scene showed had a son who had just discovered that his mother for 30 years is not his real mother... He had been put there in place of her still born child. My question is - does that change anything??

How does it matter? He was always a part of her life and was her son... Only now that she knows... Things will change...

Then the show moves to the next scene where he finds out who his real mother is... Lo and behold it is his own aunt - father's (the man he knew to be his father) brother and wife were the boys real parents... Even better right?

The biological mother did not mind, she sacrificed... But it was kept a well guarded secret to  protect the family from all hell breaking lose...

My point is... This is a show watched across India - Balika Vadhu (child marriage) - and is known for showing social issues in a real perspective. The fact is, even in such a show, they depict adoption as a crime... Living in  city, having dreams of wanting to settle away from the family all seems a punishable offence!

Wonder why??

So coming back to the point - is adopting bad? There is a population explosion in India... People keep having babies whether they have the financial capacity to handle a large family or not...

Fact is - there a millions of children who need the love and affection you would give a new baby - but instead people get swayed with the concept of blood is blood... Is it really?

Passion or Happiness?

There's been a perpetual debate between whether people are happy with their lives or not! Are you? I recently read on a blog about happiness and passion that the two are related. True - they are. Come to think of it, unless you are passionate about what you do, you'll never be able to remain committed to it. If you're not committed, eventually you will want to pull out and give up on what you're doing - this is true for every aspect of life - work, relationships, hobbies, etc.

If you simply join dance classes because your friends have, there's a good chance you'll give up within a week and they will happily continue till they drop! Fact is, at the end of the day, when you 'give up', you'll most likely be labelled as someone who gives up easily. The truth, contrary to this is that the only reason you did it, was because you thought since other's like it, you will too - it wasn't your passion, it was theirs! So while they were happy doing it, you got tired quickly.

It's the same with relationships - especially when people get married! Just because 10 of their friends have gotten married, they get married - not because they wanted to, but just because it was said to be the right thing to do! Fact is again, unless you do something because you really want to, you will never be able to pursue it - something that our generation seems to suffer from - lack of persistence.

Persistence can only be achieved if people are willing to keep at what they started - relations, jobs, hobbies, arts, social work, anything! Everyone says our generation lacks persistence.  If we are passionate about our decisions, there's no way we will give up on things as easily as we do - what say you?